Watching the Biggest Loser, one of the contestants asked the other contestants to send her home from one of the best opportunities of her life. She isn’t homesick. She wants to go home because she wants to give her mother what she wants.
This. Frustrates. Me. Maybe I’m an entitled daughter, or maybe I’ve been caught in this horrible cycle for 33 years, but how can a parent be so manipulative to put that kind of pressure on a kid? I’ve succumb to that kind of pressure for my entire life.
Deneen, stop being so selfish. Be nice to your sister (your aunt) and give her what she wants. Deneen, I want (insert item here.) Can you please go get it? Deneen, I’m unhappy because of (insert situation here.) Can you please do (insert action here) so that I can be less frustrated?
I do not plan on spoiling my children, but I REFUSE TO PUT THAT PRESSURE ON MY CHILDREN. I don’t want my children to grow up trying to please me. I want to raise my children to be secure enough in themselves to live the life that is destined for them. I want to raise my children to be well-adjusted people who can work well with other people. I’m going to teach my children to compromise and not be doormats.
Parents are not suppoesd to be selfish. They are supposed to look out for the best interest of their children. Sometimes that means punishing the child for misbehaving. Sometimes it means that you have to love your child unconditionally through bad decisions.
Sorry for the rant…