The other night someone asked me why I’m not dating. I didn’t know how to answer. I always stumble on these questions. It was a really short conversation, but it made an impact.
The answer lay within me…of this I’m sure. I’ve spent time making up excuses, but I’ve come to the realization that I have some….ummm….things that keep me where I am.
I have a one-track mind.
I’ve tried trolling online for men the various online dating options. I’ve not had luck…I tend to attract people who have dental issues or people who are religious zealots. I filled out my profile way back when I was living and breathing church involvement. Turns out that once you fill out one of those profiles, it goes on your permanent record. And I thought that was something that my mom and teachers only threatened me with.
I am not willing to settle. There are plenty of nice guys out there. I’m sure that many of them would make a fine boyfriend/husband. You see, I’ve been waiting for a long time. Why settle? I’ve been single long enough to know that I can do this for a long time. I’ve also been single for long enough to be willing to be in a relationship should someone ask me out on a date.
Besides, I have a one-track mind?
Deneen White 
Have you considered being the aggressor in this situation? I know it isn’t exactly “traditional”, but I don’t consider you to be the “traditional” type. Why not go out on a limb and ask a guy out on a date? Start with one of your buddies, I am sure that they would be more than happy to go out on a date with a great gal like you.
Or, maybe you’re like Paul and have “the gift”. What that means, exactly, I don’t know. But it enabled him to never want to marry.
Agressor. Ha…(It would probably be more appropriate for me to have a pic of my face here so that you can see my incredulous, perplexed, embarassed expression…)
I’m definitely not like the apostle Paul…I don’t have the gift of desiring to be single for the rest of my life.