Over the past few months, several people have tried to talk me into becoming a sales representative. I would love the unlimited income potential…not gonna lie. I love to talk to people. I love not being confined to an office. But—there is one thing that holds me back. A fear of rejection.
No one likes rejection. Some people allow rejection to roll off of them like water off a duck’s back. I am not one of those people. I take rejection personally. I know—toughen up kiddo. Put on your big girl pants and get over it. Were it only that simple.
Fear of rejection hinders more aspects of my life than the decision of whether or not to be a sales representative. It could even hinder some of my relationships. Hypothetically, I have no plans for Friday night. I call my friend, see if she wants to meet up for drinks. She says no. I have two options for a reaction. One is sane. One is insane. Sanity tells me that my friend is busy and cannot meet for drinks. End of story. Insanity allows my imagination to run rampant, coming up with a thousand reason why she can’t meet up for drinks. She is mad at me(rejection). She doesn’t want to spend time with me(rejection).
No is not necessarily rejection. Here in the US, we are not taught the art of no. We feel compelled to say yes when we mean no because of our own fear of rejection.
The Bible is pretty simple on this subject. Matthew 5:37 says, “Let your yes be yes and your no, no.” Perhaps if we lived by this principle (if I lived by this principle) the fear of rejection would subside.
What relationship are you not developing or pursuing for a fear of rejection?